British teenagers are among the most badly behaved in Europe, a study by think-tank
the Institute for Public Policy Research suggests. The UK has been accused of
failing its children, as it comes bottom of a league table for child well-being
across 21 industrialised countries. Britain is in danger of becoming a nation
fearful of its young people, a report has claimed.
The above three statements were on the BBC news this week. Does this bother you as
a parent or do you want to brush it under the carpet and forget about it. As long as
you are a parent based in the UK, you cannot overlook these statements, you need to
rise to the challenge and make sure that your children are outstanding.
It is a common saying that children do not come with manuals . As Christians, we
have access to the best manual ever written, which is the Bible. Discipline is about
teaching. The whole Bible is about teaching, parents should teach obedience not
just to bring children under parental authority but also to bring them to salvation
and spiritual discipleship. (Heb 12:11). Discipline may be difficult at the present
and be painful. Afterwards it yields its fruit.
The Bible clearly presents both our responsibilities and how we should accomplish
them. The first step towards parental failure is for parents, through ignorance or
disobedience, to not follow Biblical instructions on parenting. Parents who choose
their own methods of discipline rather than researching and understanding God-s
clear Biblical directions offend God and their families. God commands parents to be
diligent in discipline and wise in understanding. We don-t have the option of
choosing either our methods or our goals since our children belong to God. We are
acting in His place and have a responsibility to accomplish his desires.
It is a true parental failure when parents, in response to specific conduct and
attitudes expressed by their children, misrepresent God by the manner they respond
to their children-s disobedience. God never fails to reward obedience and punish
rebellion. The Bible clearly illustrates this in both the Old and New Testaments.
When parents fail to respond to their children-s rebellion firmly, using the
Biblical authority granted to them by God for this purpose, they misrepresent God-s
character and moral government to their children. Double minded and permissive
parents encourage their children to form a false view of God-s authority. God holds
parents accountable for teaching children to honour and respect the Lord.
Parenting includes mothers and fathers. Almost all Scriptures in the Bible about
teaching children are addressed to fathers. Proverbs 4:1-5 is an example: Listen, my
sons, to a father-s instruction; pay attention and gain understanding. I give you
sound learning, so do not forsake my teaching.
What the Scripture says:
“You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with
all your might. And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart;
you shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you
sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise
up” (Deuteronomy 6:5-7).
“Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart
from it” (Proverbs 22:6).
“Chasten your son while there is hope, and do not set your heart on his destruction”
“And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the
training and admonition of the Lord” (Ephesians 6:4).
“…One who rules his own house well, having his children in submission with all
reverence” (1 Timothy 3:4). This is also one of the qualifications of a spiritual
Guidelines to discipline
Never discipline in anger.
Always explain why you are disciplining the child.
Demonstrate your love afterwards.
Always express forgiveness after corrective measures have been taken.
Never mention the subject again. Treat the child as if it never happened.
Follow through with discipline. Make sure a command is obeyed.
Prayer is the key.