This week I would like us to look at a type of discipline called -Role Model-. No
one technique can be relied upon for all situations. However, we can use as many as
possible and pray that it works. Research has shown that children learn more about
behaviour by watching adults than in any other way.
Parents have an excellent role model in Jesus. We can be patient, and explain
things in creative ways to our children. And for all children, even the youngest,
we can teach by example. When we are role models for kindness and compassion,
forgiveness and mercy and non-violence, children will learn to be that way
themselves. It takes time, but children invariably learn their parents- behaviour.
As a parent you must realise that you are the first role model for your child. Your
child will always look up to you and observe you. If you as a parent are not
disciplined, then, you should not expect your child to be disciplined. Teach your
children to learn from young people in the Bible.
Effective discipline demands proper example. God gave a high compliment to Abraham
when he said of him, “I know him, that he will command his children and his
household after him, and they shall keep the way of the Lord”, Genesis 18:19. Can
God say this about you? This good father led by character and example. Joshua
admonished Israel, “Choose you this day whom you will serve,” then he added the
strong words, “but as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord,” Joshua 24:15. He
was a successful disciplinarian of others because he was successful in
Our heavenly Parent provides the perfect pattern for us as earthly parents. As God
loved and loves us, so we should express our love to our children as well as to one
Planting Bible principles in the heart of a child is the most reliable insurance a
parent can have against disobedience and rebellion. By the time a child reaches
school age, he may be spending the majority of his waking hours away from parental
influence. If those first six years have been used by Godly parents to instil an
awareness of God-s presence and to develop a sense of right and wrong; the child is
much less vulnerable to undesirable influences.
We can share biblical examples of role models with our children. Joseph refused to
do wrong when tempted by Potiphar-s wife (Gen 39:7-20). Joseph had the fear of God
in him and refused to sin against God. Daniel, Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego
refused to compromise their faith. They took their stand for God (Dan 1:3-20). They
all refused to defile themselves with the kings- meat and wine.
Josiah was 8 years old when he became a king and he took his stand for God, he
refused to follow the steps of his father and grandfather who did not serve God (2
Kings 22:1,2). David did not run ahead of God, he allowed God to take the lead while
he followed. Even though he was anointed as a teenager (1 Sam16:11,12), he did not
become king until he was thirty (2 Sam 5:1-4). Children should be taught that it is
God that puts one in a place of honour.
Discipline involves teaching, leading, correcting. Timothy was wisely disciplined in
that in his childhood his mind was filled with the knowledge of the sacred Scripture
(11 Timothy 3:15). All credit goes to God and his grandmother Lois. What type of
example are we leaving for our children? Jesus at twelve years of age was committed
to His father-s business (Luke 2:49).
The child who has been taught respect for parental authority is more likely to
respect the authority of civil law and of God. A child who has seen his/parents
bribe their way through life will definitely follow their footsteps. He also needs
to learn the discipline of work. Learning to be a responsible, productive member of
the family is important. A child who has always observed his/her parents relying on
the state benefits and not actively seeking for a job will do the same when grown
There is a song that says: Let others see Jesus in you, keep telling the story, be
faithful and true, let others see Jesus in you-. Are your children seeing Jesus inA
you? Please prayerfully answer this question and be truthful to Ayourself.
It is a wise father that knows his own child (William Shakespeare)
It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men. (Frederick Douglas
1817 – 1895)