Ephesians 5:25 – “Husbands, love your wife, even as Christ also loved the `church and gave himself for it:”
Christ loved the church without reserve; he gave himself up for the church, not because the church first loved him. In the same way husbands are commanded to love their wives selflessly. The bible goes on to command that you are to love your wife even as you love your body and yourself. (Eph 5:28-29) Cherish and nourish her as you would yourself and as the lord cherishes the church. To cherish her would mean that you value her as an important part of your life that you protect her and compliment her to others. Express your love verbally as often as you can. Women like words, they want to hear what you feel for them; don`t assume they know!
Honor your wife, as you are joint heirs together of the kingdom of God, that your prayers be not hindered. (1Pet 3:7) Be captivated with your wife, show her love, give her attention and take time to listen to her even when you think what she is talking about is not important. She should be able to confide in you without worrying about how you will react. If you make what she has to say seem insignificant, your relationship will suffer. Make her feel that you care and that she is the most important person in your life. Make her feel that the sun revolves around her.
Praise your wife. Tell her she is the greatest woman on earth and find specific things you can relate the praises to, not just because of her beauty. Never compare her to any other woman, not even your mum. Take time to appreciate her. It`s easy to criticize and point at all the habits you can`t stand. Why not try appreciating the things she does right! These are the keys that will bring out the gem in your wife. As she feels appreciated, she will reciprocate by treating you like her king. She will go that extra mile to make you happy.
Learn to be “one flesh” with your wife (Matt 19:5). Just as you need quiet moments with God, you need intimate time slots with your wife away from others. Find time to be alone together and talk. These quiet times together will create romance, intimacy and the much-desired mutual bonding excluding all other people. You should long to be with her as much as possible, learn to agree on issues. Make sure she knows she can count on you. By all means support her 100% so that she can depend on you without doubt.
Finally, God made her your helper. Use the help God has given you. It is important that you share your needs with your wife and make her understand how she can help meet your needs.